Some friends and I are having a virtual book club discussion on The 5 Love Languages. Of course, I waited until a large print copy came to my library in order to jump on board with this. (I have a thing for large print books.) Earlier this week, we took the test to determine which love language was ours, and are reading the book to figure out the love language of our significant others. Apparently it matters.
So what's my love language?
It's not that simple. I had a three way tie for first place in the ways I receive love. In my mind, this should have been easy. With 3 of the 5 languages being how I receive love, how the heck is my boyfriend not hitting them? Shouldn't that make it easy for him? It's like a test where if you get over half of the answers right, you get an A.
My top three are receiving gifts (which was a no brainer to everyone), acts of service (which shocked a few people) and quality time (which shocked more people). Give everyone coffee mugs for Christmas that talk about the ease of your friendship being perfect for your lazy self, and all of a sudden quality time is a shocker... (The biggest shocker from last night? I had a point for physical touch. A WHOLE POINT.)
While we went through discussing this, one of my friends mentioned that she felt mine actually all tied into each other if you considered what I thought of them individually. She has a point. To me, gifts are a symbol of your love to someone. It doesn't matter what it is, it could be giving me your Coke bottle cap because you know I keep up with the codes. That means the world to me!
My mindset on the other two is very similar. I view quality time and acts of serve as gifts in their own right, so when you really think about it, it makes sense that they all would receive equal billing in my mind. To me, they are all gifts. I guess the conclusion from our discussion last night was that my love language is receiving gifts.
"Gifts need not be expensive, nor must they be given weekly. But for some individuals, their worth has nothing to do with monetary value and everything to do with love." (I may have skipped ahead)
I guess that love languages have a lot to do with it if we're all honest with ourselves. I've known for a while that the boyfriend's love languages are the two of the five that I don't speak well. It's been a challenge for me to step out of my comfort zone to use those to speak them to him. (I still don't do as good of a job as I would like, but I'm working on it.) I guess what I'm hoping to get out of this is to learn more of how he's showing love so I can see it when I don't feel it.
And that's what's most important, right? Seeing and believing the love is there even when you don't feel it.
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